1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a 1/2 hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine .

4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!

5. Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6. That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you’re welcome.

8. Whatever: Is a women’s way of saying F@!K YOU!

9. Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to #3.

A dating coach reveals 27 things every man needs to know
By David Wygant

Over the last 10 years of coaching men, I have been asked time and time again to come up with a list of the best secrets for meeting, approaching and attracting great women.
Well, guys, there is no magic pickup line that will work in every situation, but there are guidelines that will help you understand a woman better, so you can be more successful in making a connection.
For those of you interested in being successful with women for the rest of your lives, take note of these simple things that will help you understand women far better than you do now.

10 secrets you need to know
1. All women like surprises; women believe they should be surprised at least once a month.
2. All women have fantasies. A man should take the time to find out her fantasy.
3. Women want a man to “be sensitive yet fight for them” be sensitive yet fight for them if they needed to.
4. Women want a man to be gentle and rough at the same time.
5. Women want to be told they’re beautiful, then after a time told they’re sexy.
6. Women want their man to notice when another man tries to pick them up, but refrain from jealousy.
7. Women will alter their appearance with a new hairstyle or buy something skimpy for themselves, not a man.
8. A woman will groom herself that day if there is a chance for her to meet someone that night.
9. Women believe in the fairytale and will look at most men in the first 30 seconds as if they could be the prince they have been looking for.
10. If a woman really likes a man, she will spend all day trying to look good for him and still not feel perfect, yet at times she will not be made up and feel perfect.
(all of these are soooo very true)

10 ways make yourself attractive to woman
1. Be confident in who you are.
2. Have a sense of humor.
3. Show good manners.
4. Be respectful.
5. Be controversial.
6. Be sensitive.
7. Ask her what she wants and likes.
8. Don’t just tell her you do, but put your trust in her.
9. Tell her about one time your feelings got hurt.
10. Kiss her softly, then kiss her passionately.

7 sure-fire ways to repulse a woman
1. Tell her what you don’t want her to wear.
2. Look at another woman while talking to her.
3. Show her that you have no direction in your life.
4. Be too proud of your qualities.
5. Drink too much or have a serious addiction.
6. Insult her style, friends or family.
7. Use stupid pickup lines like: “Do you want to have sex?” “Can I smell your roses?” “Baby, that’s the sweetest butt I’ve ever seen!” “Hey you, come here!”

The best pickup line
Observe what she is doing, then walk over and have a conversation about what is going on at that moment. For example, she is in the video store and looking at “The Departed.” You can either ask her about the movie and what she knows about it, or if you saw it you can say, “Loved that movie….” and start the conversation from there.

Good luck!
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David Wygant has been a featured dating expert on more than 2,000 radio and television shows including Dateline, ABC News, CBS Good Morning, MTV, Fox News, and in publications including The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Dallas Morning News, Boston Globe, Maxim, Cosmopolitan, and Marie Claire magazine.

I’ve never understood why women love cats.

Cats are independent, they don’t listen, they don’t come in when you call, they like to stay out all night, and when they’re home they like to be left alone and sleep.

In other words, every quality that women hate in a man, they love in a cat.

Black Woman Cake…written by a Black Man

THERE WERE SPECIAL INGREDIENTS GOD USED IN MAKING A GOOD WOMAN

I’m making a black woman cake because I’m hungry as hell.
And the sweet tooth I have only a Sista can break the spell.
Let me reach into my spice rack to see what I can get.

To make a mix that will stick to my stomach you can bet.

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1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him
stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man’s character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5 Stop trying to change “you” for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
6. Don’t force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you
can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don’t let faith make you stupid. God does
things decent and in order.
11. Don’t settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship–take that as a BIG sign that he is
unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don’t stay because you think, “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later
for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren’t involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There’s only one ‘reason’ a man dumps you; he doesn’t want you.
18. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them
when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn’t call, he just isn’t that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord. Don’t be strung along.
26. Don’t fall for the “I’m confused role”. Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure
things out (but don’t wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his
family (not just mom).
28. There’s more than physical abuse, there’s emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of
them…flee.
29. You cannot change a man’s behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don’t let him place rules on you that he is not will to follow himself , No double standard.
31. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education
or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can’t give it, he can’t have you!
34. Don’t compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he’s
lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else’s man.
40. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn’t mean that he won’t hurt you and it doesn’t mean
that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom to ‘get it right’ the next time.
43 Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb …
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone
ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don’t love self…you can’t love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else’s broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage…deal
with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55 Never become your man’s “therapist”.
56. When actions and words conflict- believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it but it takes two to
make it work.
58. Don’t fall for the “I’m not the loving type”…when a man loves you there is nothing in this
world (within reason) that he wouldn’t do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always knows where you are, and you’re always
readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space…let him go out with his boys, don’t pressure him to spend time with
you. You can’t force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn’t allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn’t.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother’s house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don’t depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When its time to let go, let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don’t play games.
72. You can’t make a whore into a housewife – or husband.
73. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your
radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career
goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.

Beautiful
Intelligent
Talented
Cute
Horny

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears,
The figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart,
The place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman Is not in a facial mole,
But true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.
It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
The passion that she shows.
The beauty of a woman
With passing years — only grows.

“What do catwalk fashion models do? Nothing, not even smile. Sulk and smoke. Is that an image that ppl should be aspiring to? Barbie is a better role model.” ~ Martin J. Willett

Utopia of Fat
Here are some rewards and pleasures that would accompany a utopia of fat:
(Hillel Schwartz)
1. Dinners would be scrumptious, sociable, and warm.
2. Children would acquire no eating disorders because “feeding would be calm and loving, always sufficient, never forced.”
3. Fat people would love their bodies and “dress expressively.” Women, in particular, “would wear their weight with new conviction.”
4. “A fat society would be a comforting society, less harried, more caring.
5. A fat society would be less harshly competitive, less devouring.

Schwartz is one of the first, and certainly the most eloquent, to find in fat the emblem of Capitalism, a metaphor and index of our societies relation to consumption. We are all consumers, and the fat that we wear or the fat that we flee expresses a certain relation we have, as consumers, to the objects of our desire. Schwartz is one of those who has most carefully and thoroughly distinguished hunger from appetite. Hunger is a drive, a biological need motivated from within by the body’s lack of what it needs; appetite is a desire, stimulated by the attraction or seduction of things outside the self that provoke an interest or inclination to eat. One’s appetite can be stimulated, even if one is not hungry. Indeed, for some, that is the function of good cooking.
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Phobias
As a society, we are fat phobic. This means that all of us face or deal with fat phobia in one way or another. If you don’t believe me, ask yourself how many times you hear about Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig before the summer begins? When was the last time you saw a fat woman in a Calvin Klein fashion ad? What size person fits comfortably in an airline or movie theatre seat?
How fat phobic is our society?
It’s so bad that we have potato chips that actually include ingredients that our bodies cannot digest. This done in the name of labeling them “fat free” (and in case you missed it – that’s supposed to be a good thing and you are supposed to want to buy them). If that’s not enough, ask yourself what are the majority of images you do see and what is their message?
The growing number of facilities where people can “treat” their weight “problem”, coupled with the omnipresent image of the thin body, sends the message that fat is not acceptable and will not be tolerated.
On the other hand, fat oppression only affects a select group of people in our society. Fat oppression is spawned out of people’s fear of fat. It manifests when a fat woman is not hired or promoted because of her size; when people feel it’s okay to comment on what a fat person orders in a restaurant; when the representations of fat women in movies reinforce the stereotypes of fat women as domineering mothers, whores, psychopaths, or the unattractive-but-funny best friend (Rosie O’Donnell or Kathy Bates); when a personal ad qualifies its respondents by saying “no fatties please”; when a clothing store only carries women’s sizes up to a 12 (I hate that); when a fat kid is teased or ridiculed by classmates; when only one state in the U.S. makes it illegal to discriminate based on size (Michigan); or when no one objects when the media becomes fascinated with how large or small Oprah Winfrey, Rosanne Barr, or Elizabeth Taylor have become. All of this is a form of oppression, but not everyone suffers from this oppression – only fat people and in particular, fat women.
Fat phobia and fat oppression are clearly different from each other. They are also connected in a very important way. Phobia makes oppression possible. The way in which our society is constructed, makes our fat phobia invisible, hence fat oppression is still one of the remaining legitimate, acceptable, and legal forms of discrimination.
*Discrimination Case*
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The Curse of Eve Myth
Appropriately enough, a magazine survey found that a majority of women were ashamed of their stomachs, hips and thighs – parts of the body that contribute to female shapes. Roberta Seid wrote, “Our female ideal violates the natural anthropomorphic reality of the average female body… is more like the body of a male than a female. The goal is to suppress female secondary sexual characteristics”. This goal is in keeping with our culture’s “curse of Eve” myth.
In light of this extreme sexual pessimism it is perhaps ironic that men, who have controlled the means of representing women in art throughout history, have so focused on the female form: the flesh, the body. The fashion industry has always been dictated by men, which has often meant beauty norms that immobilize women such as corsets, foot binding, and modern thinness. Several have also noted the 20th century’s extreme interest in the nude female form in fashion as well as in the media. Roberta Seid points out that, fashionably garbed, a woman “virtually became wholly exposed.” Hence clothing is no longer enough; a woman must manipulate her very being to be fashionable nowadays. The representation of women in the media has become increasingly pornographic. Such pornographic images are usually of curvaceous, voluptuous women. But beneath the seeming implication that sexuality is becoming more socially acceptable is an uncomfortable double bind: “the “fat” pornographic images present a female body without a mind, without subjectivity. The fashion models in women’s magazines are meant to represent women with minds to acknowledge and appeal to female objectivity, but they have no bodies”. Women who have noticeably female bodies become objects in cultural consciousness. They are reduced to sex and sex alone, and are not allowed any sense of physio-spiritual integrity. If a woman wants to be taken seriously, she cannot be a sexual being and so, cannot be “fat”.
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Can you be big and healthy?
It would probably surprise most people to hear that there is a great deal of debate among researchers regarding this contention. Will weight loss improve your health? The jury is still out, but here are two conclusions from a 1992 National institutes of Health conference on obesity: Although there seems to be little doubt that overweight individuals have increased risk for morbidity and mortality, it does not immediately follow that weight loss reduces the increased risk [Some studies indicate that intentional weight loss (rather than weight lost due to illness) is associated with increased mortality]. Given the high likelihood that weight will be regained, it remains to be determined whether these time-limited improvements confer more permanent health benefits.
The issue of fat and health is a complex one, with many factors to consider. Medical research has raised more questions than it has answered. It seems that, while there are health risks associated with being fat, there are also some health benefits. It may be healthier to remain at a stable high weight than to yo-yo diet.
Given that permanent weight loss is elusive for most fat people, the issue of fat and health is irrelevant. The only true option available is to be as healthy as you can, regardless of your weight. (Often times the health issue serves as a smoke screen to justify denying fat people their civil rights. The assumption that fat people are unhealthy is often used to defend discrimination in employment, educational opportunities, housing, and adoption privileges. Health issues should never supersede one’s civil rights.)

Dave Alexander, who stands 5-foot-8, weighs 250 pounds and has completed 264 triathlons and a professor who also is clinically obese but runs 35 miles a week. The professor has studied some 25,000 people since 1970 and says that fat men who were fit had lower mortality rates than men who were unfit but of so-called normal weight. Some scientists say that some ppl are programmed to be fat.
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Myths
Myth #1: Fat people are compulsive eaters.
Info: Some fat people (as well as thin people) are compulsive eaters; some are not. Studies which set out to prove that fat people eat more than thin people concluded that there is no measurable difference in the food consumption of fat and thin people. Since compulsive eating generally occurs in response to dieting, those people who diet are at risk. Since most fat people, especially women, have felt pressured to diet, some will have developed a compulsive eating problem. Compulsive eating tends to heal and normalize once people stop dieting.

Myth #2: Fat people become fat from overeating and under-exercising. They can become thin by dieting and exercising.
Info: Some people get fat from eating too much and exercising too little. At least two-thirds of fat people, however, are genetically programmed to be fat, regardless of their eating and exercise habits. On average, fat people eat no more than thin people; this has been repeatedly verified. If someone has become fat from a combination of overeating and under exercising, their size will probably diminish as they eat less and exercise more. However, they may never become thin, unless they are genetically meant to have thin bodies.

Myth #3: Fat people are avoiding or covering their sexuality.
Info: Some people who are fat may use fatness to protect themselves against their own or others’ sexuality. As with anyone, however, this must be determined on an individual basis. Many people who are fat are quite comfortable with their sexuality, and are sexually active.

Myth #4: Fat women have all been sexually abused when they were young.
Info: It is estimated that about 30% of women of any size have been sexually abused. One cannot assume any correlation between body size and a history of sexual abuse.

Myth #5: Fat people lack willpower.
Info: Most fat people in our culture have spent years dieting, and have lost vast quantities of weight. However, more than 95% of dieters regain lost weight. Contrary to what the $33 billion per year dieting industry would have us believe, the failure of diets is not the fault of the dieter; rather, the body’s response to a very low calorie diet (VLCD) dictates that the diet will fail.
A person’s body weight is determined by a number of factors, including genetics, metabolism, and dieting history. The body will naturally stabilize at a certain weight; dieting serves to raise this natural “set point”. When the dieter goes off her diet, her body converts extra calories consumed as fat, in anticipation of the next period of “starvation,” resulting in weight gain greater than the amount lost. This “ratchet effect” is evident in yo-yo dieters, who may lose 20 pounds, gain 30, lose 30 pounds, gain 40, etc.
Very low calorie diets result in both physical and psychological pressure to resist what the body interprets as starvation. This psychobiological pressure leads dieters to binge in order to receive vital nourishment. Fortunately, for the survival of the human race, biological necessity usually overrides willpower.

Myth #6: Inside every fat person is a thin person trying to get out.
Info: Given the prejudice which confronts fat people in our society, most fat people would like to be thinner. Nevertheless, they cannot become thinner, they need to accept themselves and get on with having the best life they can have. Do not assume that with the “right” treatment, a fat person will get thin. Biology largely determines a person’s body size and shape. With the “right” treatment, however, a fat person can have a full, happy, and healthy life.

Myth #7: “Fat people are ugly.”
Info: Beauty is a learned concept, and the cultural norm of beauty changes over time. At the turn of the century, the leading sex symbol, Lillian Russell, weighed over 200 pounds. Marilyn Monroe would be considered “overweight” today. The media, advertisers, and the diet industry tend to set the standard of beauty in today’s society. We must remember that they are selling us dissatisfaction with our bodies in order to make a profit.

Myth #8: “Fat people can’t find romantic partners.”
Info: It’s estimated that at least 5-10% of the population has a preference for a large-size partner. As the preference for the large-size partner is legitimized, the 5-10% figure may rise.

Facts:
Sixty-one percent of U.S. Adults are overweight or obese. (1999)
Thirty-five percent of U.S. Adults are overweight (BMI of 25.0-29.9). (1999)

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4 am in the morning and I get the idea to research big women and the ideals and roles placed upon them by different societies and cultures. I thought it was a great idea.. one of the best ideas I’ve had in a while. I couldn’t tell ya where th topic came from cuz at 4 am my brain’s on auto-pilot but I’ve decided to do my research and put forth what I’ve learned on my knowledge journey. Btw, did I mention how many porn sites I had to weed through before I got to the good information? Millions. There is a market folks. The web sites that did allow me to learn about the subject and not view it in a degrading manner were sites created by big women themselves, feminists women, and/or men that loved big beautiful women.

My personal view
Me?.. some consider me big, some consider me “healthy,” and some just view me as well proportioned. I’m just built weird. Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally koo with it and I wouldn’t wanna have another structure but I’ve never seen anybody walking around with a similar shape. It gets me down at times and at other times I feel empowered by it.
Most of tha women in my family are well built. On my daddy’s side the women mostly have big legs and hips. On my momma’s side, they usually have small frames but we come from tha South *shrugs*.. they’re thick women. I inherited a lil bit of both. I have no complaints. I know what I am.. I appreciate it.

My friends’ view
I had a convo with Ray & Chandra and they both think that there is no way that u can be healthy and fat. I was taught different. Their views on tha subject had me jaded for a minute… now I suddenly understand certain things about them.
Ray says he hates how ppl hype up big black women cuz he thinks it’s not right to be overweight. He says it’s a health issue that makes him think that way but I know different.
Chandra says as long as u carry urself a certain way and buy clothes that fit, it’s all good. Once again, I know different.. Chandra often squeezes into clothes that are a size(s) smaller, so I took what neither one of them said to heart. They didn’t care to answer my questions properly when I asked their opinions of tha negative aspects that tha media places on ppl that don’t fit tha “mold.” They think that if u have tha right attitude and accept ur body, you should be alright but what about all tha teasing and constant tv/magazine ads that gives said person negative images that hinder their self concept?

I have to take tha time out to give thankx to tha makers of tha Just my Size commercial that says big women can be beautiful women. Thankx to De La Soul for tha “Baby Phat” video. Thankx to PBS and a special thankx to Juvenile for “Back that ass up.” It might have been about ass but at least it depicted “real” girls instead of ur normal video hoes.

In writing this paper am I in no way classifying myself as a big person (I’m thick, thank ya very much), nor am I trying to offend big ppl. This is just a light-hearted attempt to learn about different ppl and culture and hopefully spread tha knowledge that I’ve gained.

**switching to scholar mode**

The body of the fat woman is one that is denigrated, policed, teased, restricted, and desexualized. Therefore the myths about fatness need to be dispelled and dismantled so we can all be aware of the privilege of thinness. My mission is to promote tha big woman in order to combat the negative stereotypes surrounding the fat body and in particular, the fat female body.
Most fat people in our society have undergone socially sanctioned abuse. The fatter the person, the more likely it is for that person to face abuse in daily life. The abuse may come in the form of insults from strangers, family, and acquaintances; denial of insurance or of medical treatment, or insistence by medical professionals that weight loss is required for healing any and all presenting complaints; restricted access to jobs, promotions, or advanced education; denial of opportunities to adopt a child; lack of access to adequate seating in theaters, public transportation, restaurants, and even restrooms.
As with other victims of abuse, the fat person may have internalized the abuse, with such consequences as low self-esteem, social isolation, passivity, or self hatred. These can be vital areas for therapeutic intervention.
Let’s dispel all rumors and lay to rest all myths.

HISTORY/EXISTING CONDITION:
At different times throughout history, the fat figure was looked upon as the ideal, desirable figure. For example, at the turn of the century, Lillian Russell — at a weight of over 200 pounds — was a reigning sex symbol. (Coincidentally, it’s hard finding a photo of her). Throughout most of human history, fat has been thought to be the best thing, the most beautiful and desirable stuff of all.

The first figures found that depict the human body are thought to be more than fifteen thousand years old; they are all female, all very round and bumpy, with erotic zones (tits, belly, ass) that protrude abundantly. The most famous of course is the Venus of Willendorf, a little figure four and a half inches tall, endowed with the most extraordinary proportions.

“Two enormous mountains for breasts, perfectly rounded, plumped-up mounds, tower above her vast taut belly. While the hips curve into an endless ass, the giant thighs taper to thin legs cut off at the ankles. At the focus of all these immense sweeping hills of flesh is a fat and beautifully fashioned vulva. In the center of it all is a navel, vast and dark and deep.”
Damn he described that well!

Venuses are goddesses of love but archaeologists don’t get it. With their professional bias in favor of use and usefulness, they assume these figures must be fertility fetishes, serving some ritual purposes–objects of prayer fashioned to foster conception and protect pregnancy. They make that assumption based on the further assumption that since all of these figures are fat–fat breasts and bellies and thighs–they must be pregnant. To be sure, there is some direct proportion between the amount of fat a woman bears and her capacity to bear children. Fat is fertile, we have already pointed that out. Certainly, we know that the obverse is even more likely to be the case: thin women are less fertile, less successful at bearing children. After a certain point of emaciation, menstruation stops altogether, and fertility vanishes. The advantages of fat were surely even more pressing to our ancestors in the cave; when famine lurked as a constant menace, a pregnant mother blessed her fat’s insurance against the loss of her future child.

“Asses are no less the focus of artistic attention than breasts or vast, prominent bellies, and that’s important. In humans who face each other in love, asses came to have to do more with pleasure than with reproduction, and one that sticks out behind, with the same assertive audacity as bubble breasts in front, is hot. A fat ass doesn’t serve any reproductive function. Except that it’s fat, and in general fat is fertile. A big beautiful ass on these figures is an object of admiration and a spur to dreaming, a sort of pillow on which our grottoed ancestors may well have fantasized fat, and in times of scarcity dreamt of its pleasures. In the dreams of the caveman, these goddesses gambol at play in fat fields and splash in lively streams, lovely ladies abounding in the lush landscapes that compose his visions of paradise.”
I love this guy’s descriptions!

There are African tribes that seclude their brides before marriage, in order to fatten them up, and certain Polynesian tribes have great reverence for women who reach two hundred or three hundred pounds.
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Today, the American cultural aesthetic of beauty ranges from the thin super model whose figure’s proportions are unrepresentative of the naturally occurring shape of the human female, to an emaciated, sunken-eyed look termed “heroin chic.” These cultural standards of attractiveness are fueled, in large part, by a multi-billion-dollar commercial weight loss industry that sells people on dissatisfaction with their bodies and by manufacturers selling products by linking the concept of conventional beauty and the consumer’s self-worth.

Based on anecdotal evidence, five to ten percent of the population has a sexual preference for a fat partner. Since fat partners are not considered attractive or desirable by modern American society, there is a high degree of stigmatization associated with such a preference. Due to this societal, peer, and parental pressure, individuals with such a preference see the preference itself as abnormal or shameful. As a result, most individuals who prefer fat partners suffer from self-doubt and often public ridicule. Many decide to stay “in the closet” about their preference because of this opposition. This denial of one’s preference may lead to a disruption in personal growth and inadequate development of social and interpersonal skills. It may also lead to unhappy relationships with average-size partners chosen simply to conform to society’s norms or to please parents, employers, or friends. As a result of this social stigma, relationships between fat people and their admirers are often unnecessarily difficult, and many people who could form happy, successful relationships never have the opportunity to meet…… (To be continued)

> > Seven women have died after inhaling a free
> > > > > perfume sample that was mailed to them. The
> > > > > product was poisonous. If you receive free
> > > > > samples in the mail such as lotions, perfumes,
> > > > > diapers etc. throw them away.
> > > > >
> > > > > The government is afraid that this might be
> > > > > another terrorist act. They will not announce it
> > > > > on the news because they do not want to create
> > > > > panic or give the terrorists new ideas.
> > > > >
> > > > > Send this to all your friends and family members.

If you use pads, but especially if you use tampons, read this and pass on to your friends (for the men receiving this e-mail,please forward it to your friends, significant others, sisters, mothers,daughters, etc.) Check the labels of the sanitary pads or tampons that you are going to buy the next time, and see whether you spot any of the familiar signs stated in this e-mail. No wonder so many women in the world suffer from cervical cancer and womb tumors. Have you heard that tampon makers include asbestos in tampons? Why would they do this? Because asbestos makes you bleed more … ..if you bleed more, you’re going to need to use more. Why isn’t this against the law since asbestos is so dangerous? Because the powers that be,in all their wisdom (Not), did not consider tampons as being ingested,and therefore wasn’t illegal or considered dReceived:from PMH-MTA byparknet.pmhangerous.

This month’s Essence magazine has a small article about this and theymention two manufacturers of a cotton tampon alternative. The companies are Organic Essentials @ (800)765-6491 andTerra Femme @ (800)755-0212A woman getting her Ph.D. at University of Colorado@ Boulder sent the following: I am writing this because women are not being informed about the dangers of something most of us use-tampons. I am taking a class this month and I have been learning a lot about biology and woman, including much about feminine hygiene. Recently we have learned that tampons are actually dangerous (for other reasons than TSS). I’ll tell you this, after learning about this in our class, most of the females wound up feeling angry and upset with the tampon industry, and I for one, am going to do something about it. To start, I want to inform everyone I can, and e-mail is the fastest way that I know how.

Here is the scoop: Tampons contain two things that are potentially harmful: Rayon (for absorbency), and dioxin (a chemical used in bleaching the products).The tampon industry is convinced that we, as women, need bleached white products-in order to view the product as pure and clean.The problem here is that the dioxin produced in this bleaching process can lead to very harmful problems for a woman. Dioxin is potentially carcinogenic (cancer-associated) and is toxic to the immune and reproductive systems. It has also been linked to endometriosis and lower sperm counts for men-for both, it breaks down the immune system. Last September the Environmental Protection Agency(EPA) reported that there really is no set “acceptable” level of exposure to dioxin given that it is cumulative and slow to disintegrate. The real danger comes from repeated contact (Karen Houppert “Pulling the Plug on the TamponIndustry”). I’d say using about 4-5 tampons a day, five days a month, for 38 menstruating years is “repeated contact,” wouldn’t you? Rayon contributes to the danger of tampons and dioxin because it is a highly absorbent substance. Therefore, thin fibers from the tampons are left behind in the vagina as it usually occurs), it creates a breeding ground for the dioxin.It also stays in a lot longer than it would with just cotton tampons.This is also the reason why TSS (toxic shock syndrome)occurs.WHAT ARE THE ALTERNATIVES? Using feminine hygiene products that aren’t bleached and that are all cotton. Other feminine hygiene products(Pads/napkins) contain dioxin as well, but they are not nearly as dangerous since they are not indirect contact with the vagina. The pads/napkins need to stop being bleached, but obviously tampons are the most dangerous. So, what can you do if you can’t give up using tampons? Use tampons, that are made from 100% cotton, and that are UNBLEACHED. Unfortunately,there are very, very few companies that make these safe tampons. They are usually only found in health food stores. Countries all over the world (Sweden,German, British Columbia, etc.) have demanded a switch to this safer tampon, while the US has decided to keep us in the dark aboutit.In 1989, activists in England mounted a campaign against chlorine bleaching. Six weeks and 50,000 letters later, the makers of sanitary products switched to oxygen bleaching (one of the green methods available).(MS magazine May/June 1995).

What to do now :Tell people. Everyone. Inform them. We are being manipulated by this industry and the government, let’s do something about it! Please write to the companies: Tampax (Tambrands), Playtex, O.B., Kotex. Call the 800 numbers listed on the boxes. Let them know that we demand a safeproduct-ALL COTTON UNBLEACHED TAMPONS

Not everyone is trustworthy as you will read below! Men, if you open this,
please make sure the ladies in your life are informed. This happened in
Toronto but it could happen anywhere. This just gives me the creeps!

About a month ago there was a woman standing by the mall entrance passing out
flyers to all the women going in. The woman had written the flyer herself to
tell about an experience she had, so that she might warn other women.

The previous day, this woman had finished shopping, went out to her car and
discovered that she had a flat. She got the jack out of the trunk and began
to change the flat. A nice man dressed in business suit and carrying a
briefcase walked up to her and said, “I noticed you’re changing a flat tire.
Would you like me to take care of it for you?” The woman was grateful for
his offer and accepted his help.

They chatted amiably while the man changed the flat, and then put the flat
tire and the jack in the trunk, shut it and dusted his hands off.

The woman thanked him profusely, and as she was about to get in her car, the
man told her that he left his car around on the other side of the mall, and
asked if she would mind giving him a lift to his car.

She was a little surprised and she asked him why his car was on other side.
He explained that he had seen an old friend in the mall that he hadn’t seen
for some time and they had a bite to eat and visited for a while; he got
turned around in the mall and left through the wrong exit, and now he was
running late and his car was clear around on the other side of the mall.

The woman hated to tell him “no” because he had just rescued her from having
to change her flat tire all by herself, but she felt uneasy. Then she
remembered seeing the man PUT HIS BRIEFCASE IN HER TRUNK before shutting it
and before he asked her for a ride to his car.

She told him that she’d be happy to drive him around to his car, but she just
remembered one last thing she needed to buy. She said she would only be a few
minutes; he could sit down in her car and wait for her; she would be as quick
as she could be.

She hurried into the mall, and told a security guard what had happened; the
guard came out to her car with her, but the man had left. They opened the
trunk, took out his locked briefcase and took it down to the police station.

The police opened it (ostensibly to look for ID so they could return it to
the man).

What they found was rope, duct tape, and knives. When the police checked her
“flat” tire, there was nothing wrong with it; the air had simply been let
out. It was obvious what the man’s intention was, and obvious that he had
carefully thought it out in advance. The woman was blessed to have escaped
harm. How much worse it would have been if she had children with her and had
them wait in the car while the man fixed the tire, or if she had a baby
strapped into a car seat. Or if she’d gone against her judgment and given
him a lift.

I’d like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life.
A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this
to the ladies only; but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters,
daughters, etc., you may want to pass it on to them, as well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world
we live in has a lot of crazies in it….better safe than sorry.

PLEASE BE SAFE AND NOT SORRY! JUST A WARNING TO ALWAYS BE
ALERT AND USE YOUR HEAD!!!