It’s over. Now what? If you’re a woman who’s ever had to deal with “I’m done” from a significant other, I’m sure you’ll be able to relate to this. First, you need to realize that it will not be easy to completely cut off a guy from your life, but let’s face it…that’s what you have to do. We all have our different ways of going about doing that too, but ultimately so many of us go way too far in dealing (or avoiding dealing) with the fallout of a break-up. I’m gonna keep it real because as a woman who is dealing with this situation gracefully, (I’m sure it helps that it was a mutual decision) I’m tired of seeing those of you who act a straight fool when a guy wants out.

No matter what your girlfriends tell you, stalking him is NOT okay. It’s just not. What is stalking? It’s calling over and over again. It’s leaving nasty messages, calling back to leave an apology and then calling again to cuss him out because he’s never responded to the first set of calls…and over and over again. Stalking is riding by his house to see if his car is there. Stalking is calling his friends to “talk” in hopes to see what he has going on. Stalking is showing up outside his bedroom window at 6am staring at him from the other side of the glass (I have a friend who actually did this to more than one boyfriend—I recommended professional help ASAP!)

It’s not cool, it’s not cute and it gives women a bad name when you do this. Hell, it makes men not want to break it off in an upfront fashion for fear that they will be harassed by an ex. I’m not saying men do shitty break-ups because of us, but some of us don’t help make the transition easy.

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