Naughty or Nice?
|(Q: I have a high opinion of myself.)||
Self-esteem comes from the success of real accomplishments. The
experimenter approach gives you a way to accomplish the things you have
always wanted to do by working towards them one small step at a time. The
first step is to decide what you want to accomplish and then THINK of an
experimental step that may take you in that direction. The important
thing is to break out of ruts and begin to experience the thrill of real
progress towards your goals.
(Q: People who are emotionally important to me help me to
overcome my problems.)
Supportive connections with other people are a basic need that goes
back deep into our evolutionary past. We are social animals, not meant to
stand alone, so the feeling of mutual support of other people is
necessary for good health. It is not a sign of weakness to share problems
with others and be equally ready to help them when they need it.
If you are out of practice, start today to develop at least one
friend or family member that you can freely open up to. As with most
things, you may need to start small and build up slowly to real close
communications. Invite someone to dinner and get as close as you can for
a start and then let the relationship build naturally from there. The
important thing is to take a manageable step towards the goal now and
EXPERIMENT. If you TRY something that doesn’t work, don’t feel bad. Just
LEARN what you can from the experience and TRY something else.