[100] (Q: I am unable to change my relations with certain people
although the outcome is negative.)
Long-standing personal conflicts can have a negative effect on your
health. Though they may appear to be caused by other people, changes in
your own behavior can often correct the situation. The important trick is
that you must use creativity and trial and error experimentation to find
a behavior change that works. The simple act of TRYing to find a solution
to the problem changes your emotional reaction to it from an unhealthy
feeling of helplessness to a healthy feeling of engagement. As soon as
you begin taking action to try to discover a solution to a problem, your
health will benefit because of the emotional change of your new pro-
active attitude will energize your immune system.