| What’s Blooming Today? |
28 Jun |
| Why you should swallow |
26 Jun |
Spitting is, quite simply, messy. Having a paper towel at the ready can help, but even then, you have a cum-soaked towel to dispose of. Same is true if he comes somewhere other than inside your mouth, there’s plenty of sticky jizm to wipe up. Just swallow and there’s no muss or fuss.
It’s Quick
Even if cum is unpleasant (we have tips for making it much less so), the fastest way to deal with it is to swallow. Running to the bathroom to dispose of it or spitting it out on the spot will take more time, and be less efficient, than just swallowing it.
It Lets the Man Relax
If a man has to worry about coming, feeling that it is an imposition on the woman or the cause of unpleasantness, it creates tension while receiving the blowjob. He cannot fully relax, and cannot fully enjoy his climax. A woman who swallows both puts her partner at ease. Also, she can continue sucking through the orgasm, “sucking him dry”, which men find both physically and emotionally satisfying.
The Symbolism of Swallowing
In Western culture, swallowing has deep symbolic significance. The act of swallowing signals acceptance, blessing, and complete transformation. Imagine spitting out champagne after a toast or spitting out the wafer during communion. The insult and sacrilege would be overwhelming. In the same way, spitting out cum is a symbolic rejection to many men.
By swallowing, a woman indicates complete acceptance. She wishes to consume, to commune with whatever comes from her lover. As she imbibes the cum, it becomes part of her, he becomes part of her. They are joined together in an intimate sacred bond like no other.
It’s Polite
To quote one woman: “What sort of message does that convey to immediately run to the nearest sink to spit? I’m comfortable enough to get down on my knees and wrap my lips around your cock, but not comfortable enough to swallow the fruits of my labor? I know I’d be offended if my boyfriend ran to the bathroom to gargle with mouthwash after going down on me. So, sure I swallow. It’s almost impolite not to.”
It’s Environmentally Friendly
Leaving your spunk in public places just isn’t right, whether you’re dogging in the park or sucking the cinema. And wasting tissues and paper towels destroys trees and adds to our landfill problems. Swallowing is the ultimate form of enviromentally-friendly recycling.
| Resolving Conflicts In The Workplace |
25 Jun |
By Roxanne Emmerich
The dysfunctional workplace is a killer. Untreated it will kill off your customer base, your profits, and your joy for living as surely as anything.
As managers, leaders and top executives within your organization you’ve got to kill the conflicts in your workplace first before dysfunction takes hold. Here are the top ten workplace conflicts that disrupt organizations – and the cure for each…
1. No teamwork.
The best managers lead a team – not just a group of individual employees. If you have employees at odds and you show no desire to fix it then you are leading your organization to a disaster. So, make sure that the most direct supervisor meets with those involved in a workplace conflict to learn what it will take to resolve it and to secure a firm commitment to do so. Don’t forget to spell out immediate consequences in the event of failure.
2. Saying one thing and meaning another.
If you have an employee with a pattern of saying, “But what I meant was…”, call them on it. Requiring the offender to have all communications checked for clarity for a period of time usually nips this in the bud fast.
3. Giving lip service to new ideas then undercutting them in private.
You’ll want to enlist everyone’s help in keeping this workplace conflict out. Make it clear that dissenting opinions are welcomed during decision making, but that once a decision is made, undercutting will not be tolerated.
4. Defensiveness at reasonable suggestions.
As a manager, it is your responsibility to let your team know that you consider a willingness to improve to be one of the hallmarks of a person with a bright future in your company. Defensiveness should be viewed as what it is – an unwillingness to improve one’s self.
5. Attraction to chaos.
Pot stirring is a violation of principles and a threat to productivity. Counterbalance the pleasure they get from drama with a greater measure of negative consequences.
6. Not following through on commitments.
Let your team know that they are expected to acknowledge errors and make a commitment to clean up every last bit of the resulting mess.
7. Deflecting blame.
Deflecting blame equals deflecting responsibility. Make it clear that the only acceptable behavior is acceptance of responsibility and (as above) quick work to clean up the mess.
8. People pretending like they “never got the memo.”
If there was no breakdown in the actual system, make it clear that the employee is responsible for consistently accessing internal communications like memos and emails so that he is never again “out of the loop.”
9. Refusing to deal with conflict directly.
Conflict resolution is an essential part of a manager’s job. Performance reviews can and should count disruptive interpersonal conflicts against managers on whose watch they occur.
10. Gossiping and backstabbing.
Once you establish a zero-tolerance policy for talking behind another person’s back, give your people permission to address conflict head-on, out loud, courageously and honestly. And make it clear that giving or receiving gossip is not acceptable.
You may have noticed a refrain coming back again and again in this advice: Make it clear. Once you’ve made the determination to purge your workplace of dysfunctional behavior, your greatest ally and most powerful tool will be clarity. Follow the advice in this article and in my new book “Thank God It’s Monday” and you will terminate all workplace conflicts and improve your organization’s productivity.
| Shame |
15 Jun |
Shame can be a powerful force in our life. It is the trademark of
dysfunctional families.
Authentic, legitimate guilt is the feeling or thought that what we did
is not okay. It indicates that our behavior needs to be corrected or
altered, or an amend needs to be made.
Shame is an overwhelming negative sense that who we are isn’t okay.
Shame is a no-win situation. We can change our behaviors, but we
can’t change who we are. Shame can propel us deeper into
self-defeating and sometimes self-destructive behaviors.
What are the things that can cause us to feel shame? We may feel
ashamed when we have a problem or someone we love has a problem.
We may feel ashamed for making mistakes or for succeeding. Me may
feel ashamed about certain feelings and thoughts. We may feel
ashamed when we have fun, feel good, or are vulnerable enough to
show ourselves to others. Some of us feel ashamed just for being.
Shame is a spell others put on us to control us, to keep us
playing our part in dysfunctional systems. It is a spell many
of us have learned to put on ourselves.
Learning to reject shame can change the quality of our life.
It’s okay to be who we are. We are good enough. Our feelings
are okay. Our past is okay. It’s okay to have problems,
make mistakes, and struggle to find our path. It’s okay to be
human and cherish our humanness.
Accepting ourselves is the first step toward recovery. Letting go
of shame about who we are is the next important step.
| What’s Blooming? |
9 May |
Japanese Maple next to a hosta
Purple Shamrock “Francis”
White = Dusty Miller, Pink = Dianthus, Purple = May Night Sage
A white spider chillin on my dianthus
*More rose photos coming soon! Also check for my color combination experiments.
| Today’s Garden Project |
4 May |
Although I despise the color red, for some reason I’m drawn to it as an accent color for my garden. I was shopping around at the plant nursery and found “Sum and Substance” hosta, which is one of the largest hostas and only paid $6 for a quart sized plant.
I came up with the idea that I wanted a huge terra cotta pot painted red to really contrast the color of the hosta and show it off. First I had to shop around for the best deal on pots and ended up at Garden Ridge. Everything there was 25% off so I got a 24″ pot for $20. Next, I went to Ace Hardware and got a gallon of exterior high gloss paint. I bought a gallon because I expect to do tons of pots in this color, but a quart should be enough to complete 1 pot.
With 2 coats of paint, I ended up with this….
Pots like this usually retail for over $100.
| Dragon Taming |
29 Apr |
“Dragons” are self-defeating thoughts that come up over and over again as repeating themes, sometimes with variations but usually easily identifiable on close inspection. These tools can help us think logically and rationally whenever we have created painful statements and the dragons are causing mischief.
Dispute your beliefs that you are not lovable and thus worthless
While it is very nice to be loved, Paul Hauck points out that as adults we can survive without love. It can be our preference to have people in our lives that love us. To avoid feeding the dragons, we need to take care not to turn this into a demand (”I must have love!”). Furthermore, nobody has the right to judge our worth, including ourselves. We are worthy simply by the fact that we have been born.
Learn never to blame, rate, or judge
Blame leads to anger either against ourselves or others. To avoid this destructive feeling – anger – we need to learn not to blame ourselves and not to blame others. To overcome this blaming-game, we can learn to not judge ourselves or others but rather judge only our actions. We might have done something bad (or self-defeating), yet this does not make us a bad person.
Start your life now and stop waiting for a soul mate
Modern society has created the myth of the soul mate. There is no perfect match out there, so move on and start enjoying your life – with or without a partner (and there’s no soul either: when you die, you’re dead, so enjoy life while you can!). This myth perpetuates the idea that we are incomplete without a partner, not a full adult. It also suggests that we cannot truly be happy unless we find “our other half.” Happiness requires work on our part, not a cure-all partner. To expect a magical change in our lives simply from one person is absurd and puts too much of a burden on that person. Kay Trimberger identified six building blocks of a happy life as a single (or for anybody, really). Leading a satisfying life can be a helpful anti-dote to the dragons.
The most important suggestion Hauck has, slightly adapted: We have the right – even the obligation – to accept ourselves despite all our dragons that have set up camp feeding us self-defeating thoughts. It will take some time and lots of thought disputing to tame those dragons and turn them into pets. They will still try to hijack our thinking, so we need to remain vigilant. The payoff is immense, though: self-acceptance is the foundation of a happy life.
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| Affirmation |
29 Apr |
Spring is guaranteed to come. I can bloom no matter what the weather, because I am growing spiritually each day. Today I take time to notice how I have bloomed so beautifully despite my circumstances. I am capable of reaching for the sun and sky because that is my natural state. I am reaching upward every day and do so joyfully, knowing I am grounded in the life cycle of spiritual development.
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